When I first started building my divorce and co-parenting mediation company, Together You Part, more than a few people suggested I use the word easy to describe what we offer. But here’s the thing: there’s nothing easy about divorce. It disrupts everything—your identity, your parenting, your finances, your home, your relationships. This isn’t just a life event. It’s a full-scale transition.
But, how you navigate it—and who you become on the other side—is a choice. And that choice starts with how you frame the experience.
The first instinct for many people? Google “how to survive a divorce.” Spoiler alert: there are over 19 million search results. That’s not clarity—that’s chaos.
Here’s a better approach: stop thinking in terms of surviving. You survive a zombie apocalypse. This is a new chapter, not the end of your story. I believe you can move forward without bitterness or burnout—and it starts by ditching the idea that divorce has to be a disaster.
Instead, consider these 6 R’s—a mindset shift that can help you handle this transition with more clarity, intention, and yes, even grace.
RESPECT
The hardest R and the one you have to start with. Respect yourself—your emotions, your story, your needs—and the process. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything or feel good all the time, but it does mean showing up with intention and integrity. Together You Part is designed to honor that space, so you feel heard without having to shout.
RESPONSIBILITY
Take ownership of your choices, past and present. That doesn’t mean blaming yourself (or your spouse), but it does mean acknowledging your role without shame. The upside? Once you see how much agency you have, you’ll start to feel more in control. Together You Part helps you use that control to make thoughtful decisions that shape a more stable future.
REDEFINE
You don’t have to be best friends with your former partner. But, if you share children—or just want to end things on healthier terms—you do need to redefine what your relationship looks like moving forward. The TYP Way℠ through Together You Part helps you establish boundaries, set clear agreements, and focus on shared goals instead of old grievances.
REACH OUT
You can’t do this alone. Whether it’s a coach, a friend, a therapist, lean on people who help you stay grounded and forward-focused. At Together You Part, we make space for emotional support and provide tools to help you navigate this new terrain with confidence and connection.
RESPOND (Don’t React)
This is easier said than done—but crucial. Reacting keeps you stuck in the past. Responding keeps you moving forward. During your mediation, you’ll learn how to pause, consider, and communicate clearly—so you’re not just playing defense.
RESILIENCE
This isn’t about bouncing back to “how things were.” It’s about bouncing forward. Resilience means accepting that things have changed—and finding strength in that change. At Together You Part, we give you the time and structure to process the emotions, make smart decisions, and build something better on the other side.
The truth? This divorce work is hard stuff—but you don’t have to do it alone. The TYP Way℠ was built for moments like this. Our five-step mediation process gives you the space, tools, and guidance to move through your divorce (or co-parenting transition) with less cost, less conflict, and a whole lot more clarity.
